I know you never planned on being here…

If you’re like me, you never planned on being here, looking for a website like this, wondering what the heck happened to your marriage of 25 years. It’s a shock. It’s grief you have never known before. You feel like you can’t even get out of bed in the beginning. Taking a shower, putting on clothes, all those simple things, are a big struggle in the beginning. Heck, I really had no idea my marriage was even trouble for the longest time. I knew he was depressed but thought he just wasn’t happy with his new job. But he stopped talking to me. He acted irritated when I asked him questions about it. He stopped wanting to do things with me. But this was all kind of gradual so I didn’t realize the significance of it -until later. He was in a bad mood all the time. The kids noticed how he treated me too. He wasn’t happy with his life. He started going on long walks, being gone for hours at a time. But still, I had no idea he thought it was our marriage until he said, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” Bomb drop. Yep there is a name for it in the midlife crisis world. That mighty little phrase that blew up everything as I knew it. Want to tell me about your “bomb drop?” Hit “Contact” at the top of the website. I’m here for you.